If we have established relationship agreements (regardless of the relationship) that the exchanges are for information purposes in the name of intimacy, not a complaint or a request to repair anything to protect me from the emotional reactions I create myself… That`s impressive. This is a vulnerable intimacy and can go anywhere (no attachment to the result). Where it`s going to go is more truth, especially if the person who hears this sharing can go into his emotional body and find out what`s going on in response to sharing and then share YOUR emotional truth right now. His best-known book, The Four Agreements, was published in 1997 and has sold about 10 million times in the United States and has been translated into 46 languages. The book advocates the personal freedom of convictions and agreements we have made with ourselves and with others, which create use and unhappiness in our lives.  It was broadcast on the television show Oprah.  The four agreements are: in Part 1 of this two-part video, we learn about the “domestication” of men and how all the rules and values of our family and society are imposed on us by a system of punishment and reward. As young children, our true nature is to love and be happy, to explore and enjoy life; We are absolutely authentic. But then we learn to be what others think we should, and because it`s not normal that we are who we are, we start pretending we`re not what we`re not. When we are teenagers, we have learned to judge ourselves, to punish ourselves and to reward ourselves after agreements that we have never chosen.
The four agreements help us break self-limitation agreements and replace them with agreements that bring us freedom, happiness and love. The four agreements© were published in 1997 and have sold about 9 million times. He has been on the New York Times bestseller list for nearly a decade. Everything we do is based on agreements we have made – agreements with ourselves, with other people, with God, with life. But the most important agreements are those we make with ourselves. Since I wrote this article in 2010, I have read all of Miguel`s books, all his sons` books and some of the books written by his apprentices, including the excellent Wisdom Book Everything Toltec. I had the pleasure of participating in a workshop led by Miguel and Jose. I continue to support the Toltec Road as a great way to live. His work is better accepted among members of the New Thought Movement, which focuses on ancient teachings as a means of spiritual enlightenment.
Ruiz will be listed in 2018 as one of the 100 most spiritually influential living people in the Watkins.  Some have associated Ruiz`s work with Carlos Castaneda, author of The Teachings of Don Juan.  In addition to the book and audiobook, there is also an ebook, a four-colour picture book, a map deck and an online course.  I realize that this was written a few years ago… and I still have to depart from some of the author`s misunderstandings about wisdom in “The Four Accords.” Note that the beginning of the book on domestication and dreams is an important preface to understanding the power of new chords. #4: Reconciling with yourself that you always do your best is the path to absolute individual freedom. The judge, as the author describes it, will faint to judge us when we know that any choice, action, decision, emotion, resistance, hesitation or “mistake” is the best choice and, in fact, only that we can make at any given time. The deepest offer here is that in an action-reaction universe, in fact, we have no control over any outcome in our lives — such control is an illusion (and a control to which we cling desperately to avoid surrendering to the unknowable).